Here we are, gathered together for our third and final conversation about FOMO - how to break the cycle. I appreciate those of you who have joined the conversation either through email or in the comments on my blog. It’s so helpful and inspiring to hear your story!
Now that we have awareness and understanding about what I believe to be the root cause of FOMO, we can talk about how to break this cycle that causes us so much craziness in our lives.
I say breaking the cycle because I’m guessing that you are looking for something that will stick. Something deeper that will transform your mind and your habits. That is precisely why I am not going to give you an exhaustive list of shallow do’s and don’ts. I think you’ve been there done that.
So what then? What else could possibly work? I’m glad you asked! What a perfect opportunity it is for this conversation today of all days!
Did you know that we are in the season of lent? Now, don’t get all freaked out because I used a religious term. I am not a person who adheres to the “rules” of the church and I am not going to go all “crazy christian, hell, fire and brimstone” on you. :)
In brief, the traditional practice of lent is to replicate the 40 day sacrifice of Jesus journey in the desert. Ash Wednesday marks the beginning of 40 days of spiritual preparation and reflection that leads up to Easter. Many people will fast, give up certain luxuries and self denial.
How is this connected to FOMO you ask? Stay with me, I think you are going to like what is coming.
As always, I want to offer a different perspective and ask you to give it some consideration. Here goes… what if FOMO - the fear of missing out - is just a big, fat illusion that lulls us into a sense that everyone else has it better than us? What if FOMO is a distraction that blocks us from uncovering what we are really craving? Thus disconnecting us with our Source of connection.
And what if that for which we crave is something that will fill that hole? The hole that has dug its way into our spirits and has left us wanting more? What if the Source of the fulfillment we crave is a deeper connection with God's presence and the peace that only He can give.
I was listening to a podcast this morning and had the realization that I too have been lulled into this illusion and have been distracted and disconnected. See my friend, you are not alone.
Ready for some practical, tangible ideas to put this perspective into everyday life?
1. Write down those things that are distracting you and getting in your way of what your soul is really craving. Here is a short list of ideas if you need them:
2. Ask yourself, “out of this list, what am I most attached to?” When you think about not having this thing(s) in your life, does it give you a feeling of angst or a bit of panic? Do you think you might just blow up if you didn’t have it in your life any longer? :) If so, that means you are attached to it.
3. Next, are you willing to let this thing(s) go for 40 days? To lay it down as a symbol that you are ready to release the attachment, the distraction and the illusion? I know, I know it seems like a crazy long time!
4. Take some time to sit quietly and visualize yourself laying the thing(s) down at God’s feet. Breathe. Notice what you are feeling and allow the attachment to release its grip on you. Remember it is not serving you and in fact may be holding you back. Ask God to fill the hole, calm the angst and panic and give you the connection you are craving. You might ask him to help you not blow up too!
5. Lastly, if you are up for the challenge put this into tangible practice for 40 days. Let’s say you laid sugar down in your visualization. Then lay it down in real life too. If you laid anger down, then lay it down in real life.
When you notice the craving for the sugar or the flash of anger, pause, breathe, and try again. Ask God to replace the cravings and the habit with something much more precious, life giving and sustaining. His Peace & Presence!
I’m preachin’ to the choir and walking this journey with you my friend. I would never ask you to do anything I wouldn’t be willing to do. You are not alone.
As always feel free to share you comments below.
Till next time,
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