I’ve got to be honest today. For no particular reason I have had a sucky week! I’ve been in a funk. My body has just not felt right. My mindset, well not so hot. Have you ever had these kinds of days or weeks?
I’m curious, what is your “go to” response when you feel in a funk, depressed or anxious? How do you show up in your life when your body feels fatigued, your mind feels overwhelmed and your emotions are simmering just below the surface?
Each of us have an automatic response that is programmed into our mind and body. That response is linked to our personality, temperament and belief systems, (how we were raised, our values and spiritual beliefs etc.) By the way, my stress and anxiety sometimes looks similar to depression.
Be mindful of the journey when your path in life feels rocky and steep. Pam Day
Here is an example of what I’m talking about. This is what my response looked like this past week.
First - More times than not I will feel this “funk,” depression, anxiety whatever you want to call it, physically. My body will feel tired, fatigued and become tense. Most often it will show up in my neck. That is my weakest area and where I hold all my tension.
Second - I feel it in my emotions. I might experience a wide range of emotions from frustration, anger, irritability to disengagement (push people away or check out.) Often I will feel like I want to crawl into a hole or run away.
Third - It hits me mentally. This is when the limiting beliefs (lies) that I talked about in last week’s newsletter come out to play. By the way if you want to get in on my Thursday inspiration letter it’s free. Sign up HERE. Onward…
The limiting belief that hits me every single stinkin’ time is, “I am not smart enough.” I have a few others like, I don’t have what it takes, and I’m invisible/don’t matter." But they are the smaller, squeakier voices that echo behind the loud, resounding" not smart enough" voice.
The mental area (no I’m not mental!) is often the hardest to recognize. It takes a deeper level of awareness to identify what our thought process is doing.
Are you thinking right about now, GEEZ Pam, I thought you were supposed to be the expert and never experience this!? Whahahaha!
Yes, I work with clients every day on this topic, but sometimes I struggle with it too! What can I say, I’m only human after all. Such a great song… oh sorry I digress. :)
There is another component that is so, so important and is often times overlooked or not even on our radar. That is the spiritual part of our being. The part of us that holds out hope for better days. Hope for meaning and purpose. The part of us that longs for a deeper sense of belonging and purpose in our lives. A longing for something bigger than ourselves to shoulder our weariness and someone to carry the weight of overwhelm.
Often times it takes a dark night of the soul to bring us to the point where we realize that the we need the help of the Divine. Some day I will tell you about one of my dark nights of my soul. The only way I got through this time was by the help of my something bigger than myself because I sure couldn't do it alone. This help is who I call God.
We can use all the self-help tricks we have up our sleeves and believe me I have a lot of them. Self-help isn’t bad. In fact, they can give us practical tools and strategies for success.
However, what I know to be true from my personal journey, is that lasting transformation only happens when the spiritual part is included and practiced. I don't know where you stand in the realm of spirituality, but hang with me and take some time to ponder this idea.
The Spirit invites us to do the deeper internal work in our lives.Work like letting go, faith, trust, mindfulness, forgiveness, being still, listening/meditating to name a few. Things like practicing awareness to take our destructive thoughts captive so that we can stand in the truth of who our creator says we are, instead of being swept away by the lies.
So what’s the point of this topic today you ask? The point is we all have funky days, stressful moments, anxiety filled weeks, and depression that sometimes seems like it will never let go. We need to be mindful of these times. Notice what they are telling us. Perhaps we need a break. Perhaps we need to set some boundaries, Maybe we need to put ourselves on the top of the list instead of not making the list at all!
We often forget that we are not alone in times we feel weak. We are not alone when our bodies and minds scream for comfort and peace. God is there and He will give us strength in our weakness. All we need to do is remember, take some time out to sit in His presence and listen.
Here are a few verses you may find encouraging today my friend.
The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm. (NLT) Exodus 14:14
He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 (NLT)
What thoughts and questions do you have about this topic today my friend? Shoot me your comments below!